Before I Go List: Things To Do Instead

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Hey guys, life can be a real rollercoaster, right? There are times when it feels like you're stuck on a never-ending drop, and the idea of just getting off the ride altogether seems… appealing. I get it. If you're here, maybe you've felt that way too. This isn't a suicide note, though. This is a 'before I go' list, a bucket list if you will, but with a twist. It’s about finding reasons to stay, about filling life with experiences, big and small, that make it worth living. It’s about grabbing life by the horns and screaming, "Not yet!" So, let’s dive into some things we can all add to our lists, things that might just make us think twice about hitting the eject button.

Why a 'Before I Go' List?

Seriously, why make a list like this? Well, when you’re in a dark place, it's easy to lose sight of the good stuff. Your brain can trick you into believing that nothing matters, that there's no point in trying. A 'Before I Go' list is like a flashlight in that darkness. It helps you focus on the things you do care about, the things you do want to experience.

  • It gives you something to look forward to.
  • It reminds you that there are still things you want to do.
  • It helps you reconnect with your passions and dreams.
  • It breaks the cycle of negative thinking.
  • It can be a powerful tool for hope and healing.

The very act of creating this list is an act of defiance against the darkness. You're saying, "I'm not giving up yet. I'm going to fight for my happiness." And that, my friends, is a huge step. The beauty of a 'Before I Go' list is its flexibility. There are no rules, no limits, and no judgment. It’s your list, filled with your dreams and desires. It can be as wild or as tame as you want it to be. Want to travel the world? Put it on the list. Want to learn how to bake the perfect chocolate chip cookie? Put it on the list. Want to finally tell that person how you feel? You guessed it, put it on the list. Nothing is too silly, too ambitious, or too small. The key is to include things that genuinely excite you, things that make you feel alive. It's about rediscovering what brings you joy, even in the face of overwhelming sadness. Think about the things you’ve always wanted to do but never thought you could. Think about the experiences that have made you happy in the past. Think about the people you want to connect with, the places you want to see, and the skills you want to learn. Don't be afraid to dream big, and don't be afraid to start small. Even the smallest steps can lead to big changes. This list is a journey, a roadmap to a brighter future. It's a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is still hope, and there is still beauty in the world. And most importantly, it's a reminder that you are worth fighting for.

My 'Before I Go' List: A Few Ideas to Get You Started

Okay, so you're ready to start your own list, but maybe you're feeling a little stuck. No worries! I've got some ideas to get those creative juices flowing. Think of these as prompts, jumping-off points to spark your own unique list. Remember, these are just suggestions – your list should be 100% you. Let’s break it down into a few categories to get you thinking:

Travel & Adventure

  • Travel adventures should be at the top of your list. Think about places you've always dreamed of visiting. Maybe it's the Eiffel Tower in Paris, the Great Wall of China, or a secluded beach in Bali. Or perhaps it’s something closer to home, like a weekend camping trip in the mountains or a visit to a quirky small town. The point is to experience new places and cultures, to broaden your horizons and create lasting memories. What about backpacking through Southeast Asia? Or hiking the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu? Or simply taking a road trip across the country with your best friends? The possibilities are endless. Travel has a way of opening your mind and your heart, of reminding you how big and beautiful the world is. It can also be a great way to step outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. You could learn a new language, try new foods, and meet new people. The memories you make while traveling will stay with you forever, and they can be a powerful source of strength during tough times. Don't underestimate the power of a change of scenery. Sometimes, all it takes is a new perspective to see things differently. And who knows, you might even discover a hidden talent or passion along the way.
  • Go skydiving or bungee jumping (if you're feeling brave!).
  • Learn to surf or snowboard.
  • Visit all 50 states (or as many as you can!).
  • Go on a safari.
  • See the Northern Lights.

Personal Growth & Learning

  • Personal growth is a journey, not a destination. Learning a new skill, overcoming a fear, or simply challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone can be incredibly empowering. It’s about becoming the best version of yourself, and that journey can be just as rewarding as the destination. Think about the skills you’ve always wanted to learn, the fears you’ve always wanted to conquer, and the goals you’ve always wanted to achieve. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn a new language, play a musical instrument, or master a new software program. Or perhaps you’ve always been afraid of public speaking, heights, or spiders. Whatever it is, adding it to your “Before I Go” list is a way of committing to your own growth and development. It’s a way of saying, “I’m not going to let fear hold me back anymore.” Learning a new skill can open up new opportunities and give you a sense of accomplishment. Overcoming a fear can boost your confidence and make you feel like you can do anything. And simply challenging yourself to try new things can make life more exciting and fulfilling. The key is to choose activities that resonate with you, that you’re genuinely interested in. Don’t feel like you have to do something just because it’s on someone else’s list. This is your journey, and you get to choose the path. And remember, it’s okay to start small. You don’t have to climb Mount Everest on your first try. The important thing is to take that first step, to commit to your own growth, and to enjoy the process.
  • Learn a new language.
  • Take a class in something that interests you (pottery, coding, creative writing, etc.).
  • Read 100 books.
  • Run a marathon (or any race!).
  • Volunteer for a cause you care about.

Relationships & Connection

  • Relationships and connections are the heart of a fulfilling life. Nurturing the bonds with the people you love, forging new friendships, and giving back to your community can bring immense joy and meaning. It’s about creating a network of support and connection that will help you weather the storms of life. Think about the people who make you feel good, the relationships you want to strengthen, and the ways you can give back to others. Maybe you want to reconnect with an old friend, mend a broken relationship, or spend more quality time with your family. Or perhaps you want to volunteer for a local charity, mentor a young person, or simply be a better listener and friend. The possibilities are endless. Strong relationships can provide a sense of belonging, purpose, and love. They can help you feel connected to something bigger than yourself, and they can give you the strength to overcome challenges. Giving back to your community can also be incredibly rewarding. It’s a way of making a difference in the world, and it can give you a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Don’t underestimate the power of human connection. It’s one of the most important things in life, and it can make all the difference in your happiness and well-being. Make a conscious effort to nurture your relationships, to reach out to others, and to give back to your community. You’ll be surprised at how much it enriches your life.
  • Reconnect with an old friend.
  • Tell someone how you really feel about them.
  • Write a letter to someone you admire.
  • Spend more time with your family.
  • Make a new friend.

Simple Pleasures & Everyday Joys

  • Don't underestimate the power of simple pleasures. The small, everyday moments of joy can add up to a truly fulfilling life. It’s about appreciating the beauty around you, savoring the simple things, and finding happiness in the present moment. Think about the things that make you smile, the things that bring you joy, and the things that make you feel grateful. Maybe it’s watching the sunrise, listening to your favorite music, or spending time in nature. Or perhaps it’s enjoying a cup of coffee, reading a good book, or laughing with friends. Whatever it is, make a conscious effort to incorporate more of these simple pleasures into your life. Life is full of beauty, but sometimes we’re too busy or stressed to notice it. Taking the time to appreciate the small things can make a big difference in your overall happiness and well-being. It’s about slowing down, being present, and savoring the moment. Don’t wait for the big, grand experiences to bring you joy. Find it in the everyday moments, in the simple pleasures that are always available to you. And remember, gratitude is a powerful tool for happiness. Taking the time to appreciate what you have can shift your perspective and make you feel more content with your life. So, take a moment to appreciate the simple pleasures in your life, and watch your happiness grow.
  • Watch the sunrise or sunset.
  • Spend a day in nature.
  • Read a book in a cozy spot.
  • Listen to your favorite music.
  • Bake something delicious.

Making Your List a Reality

Okay, so you've got a list brimming with possibilities. Now what? The most important part is taking action! A list is just words on paper (or a screen) until you start making those things happen. Here’s how to turn your “Before I Go” list into a “While I’m Here” adventure:

  1. Prioritize: Look at your list and identify the things that excite you the most, the things that feel most urgent. Start with those. You don't have to do everything at once, but choosing a few key items to focus on will help you feel motivated and less overwhelmed.
  2. Break it Down: Big goals can feel daunting. Break them down into smaller, more manageable steps. For example, if you want to travel to Europe, start by researching destinations, then save money, then book flights, etc. Small steps lead to big accomplishments.
  3. Set Realistic Deadlines: Giving yourself deadlines can help you stay on track. But be realistic! Don't set yourself up for failure by trying to do too much too soon. A reasonable timeline will keep you motivated without adding unnecessary pressure.
  4. Find an Accountability Partner: Share your list with a friend, family member, or therapist. Having someone to support you and check in on your progress can make a huge difference. They can offer encouragement, help you brainstorm solutions, and celebrate your successes.
  5. Celebrate Small Wins: Don't wait until you've crossed everything off your list to celebrate. Acknowledge and celebrate every step you take towards your goals. This will help you stay motivated and build momentum. It’s crucial to remember that this list is a living document. It can change as you change, as your interests evolve, and as you experience new things. Don't be afraid to add things, take things off, or modify your goals as needed. The point is to keep the list alive and relevant to your life. And most importantly, be patient with yourself. There will be times when you feel discouraged, when you feel like you're not making progress. That's okay. It's all part of the process. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and you'll get there eventually. This list isn't just about checking things off. It’s about the journey, about the experiences you have along the way, and about the person you become in the process. So, embrace the journey, enjoy the ride, and remember that you are capable of amazing things. And never, ever give up on yourself.

When to Seek Help

It's important to acknowledge that making a 'Before I Go' list is a great step, but it's not a substitute for professional help if you're struggling with suicidal thoughts or depression. If you're feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or like you're in too much pain to go on, please reach out for help. There are people who care about you and want to support you. You don't have to go through this alone. Here are some resources that can help:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
  • The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 (for LGBTQ youth)
  • The Jed Foundation: https://www.jedfoundation.org/
  • Your local mental health services: Search online for mental health resources in your area.

Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. It's okay to ask for help, and it's important to get the support you need. There is hope, and there is help available. You are not alone, and you don't have to suffer in silence. Remember, you are valuable, you are loved, and you are worthy of happiness. Don't let the darkness win. Fight for your life, fight for your happiness, and fight for your future. And never forget that there are people who care about you and want to help you through this. So, please, reach out. Make that call, send that text, or search for those local resources. You deserve to feel better, and you deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life. And remember, your 'Before I Go' list is a testament to your desire to live, to experience, and to find joy in the world. Let it be a reminder of your strength and resilience, and let it guide you towards a brighter future. And know that I, and so many others, are rooting for you.

Final Thoughts

Creating a 'Before I Go' list is about taking control, about finding your spark again, and about choosing life, even when it feels impossibly hard. It’s a reminder that you have dreams, passions, and a whole world of experiences waiting for you. This list is yours, so make it your own, fill it with things that light you up, and then… go do them! And remember, you are not alone in this journey. We're all in this together. Let's choose life, let's choose hope, and let's make some memories along the way.